You Are Enough!
Too many people spend precious years and emotional energy trying to get over a relationship break-up.
Personally, and professionally I have experienced and seen too many men and women drifting or living in the past unable to get over a relationship and never being able to fully commit and engage with life or a new relationship (because they continue to carry their emotional scars into the future).
I have gathered the top 5 fail-proof ways to get over any relationship break-up, no matter how long or short!
1. Block your ex from all social media platforms.
You are no longer a couple and even though you may share the care of children, you don’t need to check in on his or her Facebook, Instagram or other social media feeds ever!
Research tells us that people who spend their time trawling Facebook or other social media outlets are less happy and less productive than those who actually live life!
Remember what you see on Facebook is a snapshot in time, it does not really or truly reflect how a person is travelling or feeling in life! So put social media into perspective and in its place and keep doing your life the best way you know.
We now know, that our thoughts are a reflection of our inner psychological world and the negative thoughts that we have are not a true depiction of our present reality.
Meditation is one of the surest ways to detach yourself from the random, negative and distressing thoughts that may be impacting the quality of your life right now!
Remember YOU are not your THOUGHTS! Learn to meditate and put your negative thoughts aside, they are not serving you in this moment- so let them go.
If you’re a beginner and don’t know where to start, there are free meditation apps you can subscribe too such as https://www.calm.com or headspace or if you subscribe to Spotify, there are heaps of meditations to check out
3. Write a list of all the bad things about your relationship
Too many people, forget why the relationship is over. Obviously, your relationship was not working for lots and lots of reasons (in fact it really doesn’t matter – why it went wrong and who’s to blame!) – what really matters is that you don’t view your past relationship with ‘rose-coloured’ glasses. There is no value in this. In fact, viewing your relationship in romantic or sentimental ways will delay your recovery.
You need to see the relationship with the hard cold-facts and with no apologies or regrets write down everything that was bad or wrong about your relationship.
4. Read your List when you’re feeling sad
Anytime you feel sad, gloomy, emotional reach for your ‘list’ – and remind yourself of the truth about your relationship. Reading about the negatives of your broken relationship will shift you back into a happier and peaceful attitude. You will validate yourself that you did the right thing and you made the right decision to end the relationship or accept that it’s over.
Every day that you read your list, you will grow stronger and more confident. Before long, your past relationship, will be nothing more than an ‘event’ – that no longer influences, or impacts the quality of your life.
5. Tell friends to stop talking about your ex
Friends have a tendency to want to know what is going on with your ‘ex’ or they want to tell you about the latest gossip or what’s going on in your ex’ life. If you are having to deal with this, simple telly your friends to Stop it!
Be direct and honest and tell them that you have moved on and don’t wish to discuss or know anything about them.
Trust yourself here, as tempting as it may be to get the latest bit of news about your ex, it will only serve to delay the healing and forgetting and moving forward process.
My self-love is high because I honour who I am
If you feel that you need help getting over your relationship and want support, then check out www.healthydivorce.com.au. We run programs for people going through break-up, separation or divorce.
Disclaimer: This article is not intended to replace any specific advice from a lawyer, counsellor or any other medical professional. The article is general information only.